tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4877563360885660011.post471224705254947954..comments2023-08-04T08:25:03.999+02:00Comments on Everyone else but me: WorseFranhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02956907374270680012noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4877563360885660011.post-36520602322641751142012-04-11T19:42:57.885+02:002012-04-11T19:42:57.885+02:00love and hugs...love and hugs...Valeryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10210187335704409247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4877563360885660011.post-1703420287439977732012-04-11T19:37:57.589+02:002012-04-11T19:37:57.589+02:00HUGE HUGS dear Fran.
You know what's right ...HUGE HUGS dear Fran. <br /><br />You know what's right for your son. You are a wonderful Mum. Never doubt that.<br /><br />Sending you lots of love and good thoughts. xoxFertility Chickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16909012164684855077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4877563360885660011.post-19564101640167868372012-04-11T18:04:26.134+02:002012-04-11T18:04:26.134+02:00Oh my goodness, this sucks! I can't believe h...Oh my goodness, this sucks! I can't believe he said that stuff to you in the middle of the night - you are definitely not abusive AT ALL!!! You are being a very good parent by teaching your boy some very good habits. And I'm sorry that all these memories came flooding back. It's amazing how we are so quickly reminded of how our parents were when we're trying to figure out this parenting thing ourselves. <br /><br />I hope Oliver gets some better rest soon. I definitely believe his grandparents are hurting, not helping, his sleep...Alexhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07524692943966582775noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4877563360885660011.post-51708821850397731122012-04-11T16:06:58.478+02:002012-04-11T16:06:58.478+02:00Oh I'm sorry to read how hard it's been. I...Oh I'm sorry to read how hard it's been. I'm not surprised Oliver was wired (or that you and M had such a rough time with him). The Routine is so important. And I've decided that naps/quiet time are like the very foundation of that Routine. When the balance is upset, everything else gets upset, too. And, sometimes, grandparents - no matter how doting or well-intentioned - can upset that balance. Speaking for myself, I know that my parents sometimes think I'm nuts, because I'm like the nap master sergeant. I crack my whip (or try to) even when "he doesn't look tired" or "we're having so much fun." Because I know that there will be repercussions later. <br /><br />And I'm so very sorry for all the stuff this is bringing up. My dad was also a "disciplinarian"...and also gets horrified if Oliver cries more than a few minutes. And the truth is, what you're doing with the sleep training is for his good. You're equipping him with skills, and ensuring a happier baby in the long-run. The other...sigh. All I can say is that it's very difficult when a child's dignity is undermined and, yes, we carry those things into adulthood. I'm of the mind that it's no good to bring it up...it will only cause defensiveness and hurt (and, anyway, I've realized that people become such revisionists about this kind of thing). But it still burns. I know.<br /><br />I hope that things get much, much easier. I also hope your mum gave your dad an earful when he came to bed. Hugs to you.Adelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06955659206478903815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4877563360885660011.post-56813369303026396982012-04-11T15:55:04.015+02:002012-04-11T15:55:04.015+02:00Ugh! What a horror show! I'm so sorry and good...Ugh! What a horror show! I'm so sorry and good for you sticking to the routine for sleep for Oliver.nurslouisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15749921400852799303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4877563360885660011.post-34935520240391272982012-04-11T15:51:30.778+02:002012-04-11T15:51:30.778+02:00I wish grandparents would just keep their mouths s...I wish grandparents would just keep their mouths shut and let their kids parent the way they want/need! I always say I learned from my parents how NOT to parent.<br /><br />I'm sorry Oliver is having such a hard time. Is he teething? Maybe it's growing pains? Who knows. But I admire you guys for sticking to YOUR parenting habits. I hope the little guy will have better nights ahead. :)Life Happenshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02302134343874268994noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4877563360885660011.post-36126029802045706592012-04-11T15:11:10.473+02:002012-04-11T15:11:10.473+02:00Oh darling, what a nightmare for you and your husb...Oh darling, what a nightmare for you and your husband. It's funny how your mind can find those spots in stressful situations where you are on alert. Your dad overreacted to the situation and I'm sorry it brought up such painful memories. You are doing the best you can by your child. <br /><br />I find it especially funny that parents lay lots of claim on how well their offspring, meaning you, turned out. "I did a great job, just look at you" sort of thing. When in fact, it takes a lot to sort out all the things that go wrong in your life (aka marrying early, leaving home quickly, etc) and that being grown up is actually a journey that you as an individual needed to do. You raised a great adult in this case, and I expect that your child will be wonderful as well. <br /><br />I'm just sorry about the confrontation. You did the right thing trying to keep Oliver focused on the crib and sleep. Definitely no child services call there. Geez.Mrs. Misfitshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12245258330689439524noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4877563360885660011.post-21569007561161385372012-04-11T11:48:41.004+02:002012-04-11T11:48:41.004+02:00Love sometimes is not enough, sadly. Your dad love...Love sometimes is not enough, sadly. Your dad loves you, but obviously that is not enough. I know that all too well.<br />You should be very proud of yourself for not saying anything to him. He will never understand, and it would leave a bad taste between you, and just telling him the truth would not make him see it. <br />They will go back to their home and you will get back to your routine and things will get better. I too think it was a case of overstimulation and it may take a couple of days to get over it. But he will get back to the good sleeping, rest assured. Not sure when, but he surely will.<br />The old generations who are not in daily contact with small children have rose tinted memories about how it is to raise a child. Try to keep that in mind and let accusations go. You are a great parent and children sometimes cry and don't sleep. Standing up to your father will sadly not solve anything - he is clearly pissed off you are not doing what he says, and still stick to your decisions. Do what is best for your child, he is the most important.Minahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13148000699685037451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4877563360885660011.post-17872842106358865382012-04-11T10:27:16.273+02:002012-04-11T10:27:16.273+02:00Oops, I published it before I finished it.
The on...Oops, I published it before I finished it.<br /><br />The one thing I have learnt vicariously is to not condone a wrong thing. I am literally in daily-know of the happenings in two families, and it all started going wrong when as children, the boys never saw their mums standing by them even if the child was correct. Just listen to dad/he loves you/never forget he is the dad/ I know kid, but it will get better...<br /><br />You have ample lessons to know what not to do with Oliver.St Elsewherehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08074672268757885766noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4877563360885660011.post-32381199954915620632012-04-11T10:24:37.359+02:002012-04-11T10:24:37.359+02:00Jeezus! So sorry, Fran.
Very very terrible. I thi...Jeezus! So sorry, Fran.<br /><br />Very very terrible. I think your father would have finally got the message.<br /><br />And for mums, who see something wrong happening, and don't do anything about it? I have just seen and am still seeing two such scenes in my extended family...St Elsewherehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08074672268757885766noreply@blogger.com