tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4877563360885660011.post6196552581196174305..comments2023-08-04T08:25:03.999+02:00Comments on Everyone else but me: "Emotionally starved"Franhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02956907374270680012noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4877563360885660011.post-2779958041393980302015-11-03T15:46:27.186+01:002015-11-03T15:46:27.186+01:00Fran I am so sorry to be reading this post. I hop...Fran I am so sorry to be reading this post. I hope in the time since writing it that things have been clarified in your mind as to a course of action. What I will say is that every marriage it seems goes through this patch of misconnection - added to that the extra stress that a long walk with infertility puts on it (even if you don't feel it at the time, it always finds a way to work itself out in the later days often once success has been achieved) and with two small children, working full day it's a wonder to me that anyone stays married at all.<br /><br />What I am saying is perhaps Mike too is just bone tired? You are, I can hear it. Understandably so. If he had to understand what it is you're thinking of doing, would it scare him into action? Couples therapy? Is that even what you want?<br /><br />Thinking of you and sending much love as you figure this all out.<br /><br />xxxThe Clamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12078355803033185009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4877563360885660011.post-20023245982326924442015-10-31T22:22:03.236+01:002015-10-31T22:22:03.236+01:00Hey Fran, sorry for commenting late. How are you f...Hey Fran, sorry for commenting late. How are you feeling now? Have you talked to Mike? your therapist?<br />I think with DP we had our emotional-support struggles during our IF years, and the counseling to go with it. My poor brother is having a hard time now, I think his children are the same age as yours. But hey, I have two shoulders, there is always another one to cry on! Wishing you calm. Valeryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10210187335704409247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4877563360885660011.post-60873894026557161542015-10-29T16:09:26.767+01:002015-10-29T16:09:26.767+01:00Oh, dear, I am ever so sorry you are going through...Oh, dear, I am ever so sorry you are going through this. I cannot imagine how hard it must be. I have no piece of advice, and I completely trust you to do the right thing, however heartbreaking that might be. It does sound like you know which way you are heading, and I must say I am curious to hear his reaction. <br />I wish you only the best, courage and good fortune.Minahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13148000699685037451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4877563360885660011.post-83716980563178402442015-10-28T03:00:47.332+01:002015-10-28T03:00:47.332+01:00Good luck, Fran. Whichever way forward you go. Good luck, Fran. Whichever way forward you go. Adelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06955659206478903815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4877563360885660011.post-77947251092397915682015-10-27T00:02:21.210+01:002015-10-27T00:02:21.210+01:00So much to be going through and I am so sorry. I a...So much to be going through and I am so sorry. I agree with Momasita, it sounds like you've make your choice and are just figuring out the steps. I wish you lots of luck and know that I'm always here to chat if you need it. (((HUGS))) Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4877563360885660011.post-86457604155597479992015-10-24T16:13:56.552+02:002015-10-24T16:13:56.552+02:00I'm so sorry you are going through this. Wish ...I'm so sorry you are going through this. Wish couples therapy could help. I think you are right, not visiting ones dying mother is very telling. nurslouisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15749921400852799303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4877563360885660011.post-85216565438955474432015-10-23T22:57:59.701+02:002015-10-23T22:57:59.701+02:00Fran, it sounds to me like you have already made u...Fran, it sounds to me like you have already made up your mind and now it is just a matter of figuring out how to go about things. I am sorry you don't have a partner that supports you emotionally, in the manner that you need. Thinking of you from across the sea!Momasitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02687149140980965721noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4877563360885660011.post-55082919690140788412015-10-23T14:35:53.745+02:002015-10-23T14:35:53.745+02:00Oh Fran... this post made me finally get behind my...Oh Fran... this post made me finally get behind my computer again to comment (I still read many blogs on my phone). I think you are incredibly brave. I recognize some of what you say, although our situations are not the same. I'll be thinking of you. Hang in there, take all the time you need to figure things out.lostintranslationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01028460277488788467noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4877563360885660011.post-45884713133932253442015-10-23T04:14:42.054+02:002015-10-23T04:14:42.054+02:00Sorry for all the autocorrect typos!Sorry for all the autocorrect typos!tireegal68https://www.blogger.com/profile/13943003575298698264noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4877563360885660011.post-16462381767276018842015-10-23T04:13:30.710+02:002015-10-23T04:13:30.710+02:00I amso sorry! It sounds like you know what you nee...I amso sorry! It sounds like you know what you need to do but you have to figure out his to do it. Do you ever get mad and tell at him to get a response, any response to your communication to him? What is under the surface? Is there anything there? Is he one of those strong stoic men if few words but river runs deep? Or not? I'm here for you and I hope you figure out what to do so you can all be happier! tireegal68https://www.blogger.com/profile/13943003575298698264noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4877563360885660011.post-64285433762495003532015-10-21T18:56:59.588+02:002015-10-21T18:56:59.588+02:00Wow, Fran I'm not sure what to say. :-( I'...Wow, Fran I'm not sure what to say. :-( I'm sorry you've found yourselves here. I was just thinking the other day how complicated things get the further you get into life. Magnified by having kids. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers as you figure things out. Hugs to you.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07687848140471196822noreply@blogger.com