Wednesday, October 21, 2009

ICLW round.... four?

Oh dear...where is the time going? It's ICLW week again! Can't remember if it's my 4th or 5th time and I love it more and more.



So shall I give a quick recap or where we're at? Or your already sick andtired of it :o)? Ah well, it's not like you have a choice ehehehe so here it goes, I promise it'll be short!

Mike and I have been together for 6 and half years (WOWOW that's the longest relationship I haver had!) and we got married in 2007. I started feeling the ticking clock since I was 28 I think but you know how it goes, the time didn't seem right (and it wasn't), I was getting separated from my first husband so really I didn't even quite have the basic crucial elements to have a baby! Then I met Mike, things became serious more or less in 2004 but he couldn't even think of a family at that stage, so we waited, and we waited some more. Until I got tired of waiting and told him so in 2006. It became clear at that point that the traditional Irish education had done some "damage"...there's no such a thing as having children without being married! And so that was somewhat a proposal and we got married in March 2007. We started "trying" a bit ahead of schedule but nothing happened. Then we were married but unfortunately that didn't make much of a difference and after several months we got tested. MFI was the diagnosis. In December 2007 I had a lap&dye plus D&C (diagnostic) and a part from very mild endo nothing seemed wrong.
And here we are, an IUI, one fresh ICSI cycle (ectopic), two FETs and another fresh cycle (ectopic again!!) later...wondering when can we go again.

17 comments:

WannabeMommy said...

Ohmygawd... TWO ectopic pregnancies? I'm so sorry. But I love your positive attitude! Keep up the good work :-)

Happy ICLW!

Courtney said...

Hope you're having a good week!

Anonymous said...

here for iclw. I too had an ectopic on our first icsi. I did not have 2 however. The last ivf we did we just got a negative beta and then stopped. I did get tested for anti nuclear antibodies (which is just a blood test) and found out i do have them. If you have never heard of these, let me know. These were one reason for my ectopic pregnancy.

Best When Used By said...

I'm not an ICLW'er this time around, but I always love to check in on you. Have a wonderful weekend, sweetie! And I know I have some awards to respond to...I haven't forgotten!

tireegal68 said...

Happy ICLW!
you rock, girl!
Hope you are doing well:)
Your hubs is clever figuring out my blog name!
Of course you are too!

Mad Hatter said...

Yes...when can you go again? When will you know? I'm tired of my cycles - I want to follow yours! ;)
Thanks for being such a good friend and looking at my chart!!!

Jane G said...

We have more in common that I realised. I am also remarried, and the whole Irish Catholic "we have to be married before we have babies" was what held us up for years too, as I had to be separated for four years before I could file for divorce.

Two ectopics, that's really tough. I have a friend who lost both her tubes to ectopic pregnancies and she ended up going to an RE in London who has very high success rates. She had a little boy via IVF. So it can happen!

Happy ICLW!

Sass said...

Happy ICLW!

I love your positive attitude!

My fingers are crossed that you will get your BFP one day soon!

Sass

theworms said...

You've been through a lot :(

((HUGS)) and love the positive attitude. GL

ICLW

Anonymous said...

Happy ICLW!
Sorry you have had such a rough road :(
I hope your IF journey ends soon.

Jacksmom said...

Happy ICLW! You've been through a lot. Do you think you could handle another IVF cycle emotionally? If so, I think they should test you for those anti-nuclear antibodies and then anything else they think might cause it and go from there. Good luck!

Photogrl said...

Happy ICLW!

Thank you for stopping by my blog...

Ectopics suck! That's the whole reason we're doing IVF...yet there is still that risk!?! What's a girl to do?

Jaymee said...

here is to hoping you are cycling again soon.

ilcw

Anonymous said...

Oh, man you have been through so much! What is the reason for ectopic pregnancies? It's reassuring to hear that you have great support and a positive attitude!

Guera! said...

Thanks for visiting my blog! It's great to "meet" new people and I love how ICLW brings people together from all over the world.

Anonymous said...

That suck hairballs!!!! Here's to the end of this journey soon!!!! CHEERS! :-) ICLW

Astrid said...

Hey, thanks for your comment to my blog, what a tough journey. I'm glad your HCG went down after the MTX - sometimes ectopics can generate HCG even after MTX. The fluctuating HCG is pretty scary stuff, and the last thing you want to deal with in the throes of losing a pregnancy or dealing with an ectopic. Best wishes for the road ahead!!