I'm really working hard this time at ICLW. I feel I have not participated for so long I owe to the community to do my best to comment on every blog in the list. So I have a system. I started from the top and the only blogs I have not commented on are those that at the time of me reading them had not posted since the ICLW week started. You have to have a screening method or with 179 blogs on the list you'll never manage. Anyway, with two and half days to go I'm at number 90. And this is on top of my normal commenting which has also taken a turn for the better as I want to make sure I return the love and support to all of you knowing I've not been the best since Oliver arrival. And I don't want to be one of those bloggers that disappears once their miracle arrives.
And no floor went down in the attic. More preparation took place though and more defects have been discovered. So new email to the architect who will recall the builder who will come and fix it...
Finally my mojo is no where to be found. I feel as attractive as a plastic bag... not sure when this started, maybe a few weeks ago, my period is attempting to normalise but not quite there yet. I bleed for a few days, then it stops and then it's back for a couple of days only a day later. I wonder if the hormones are doing the same and upsetting my normal self so much. So it's not fun for Mike. But what can I do? It's not the baby at all, it's just my body that's upsetting my sexuality. Can't seem to shift the weight, my boobs could do with a boob job and overall I'm just flabby. Maybe it's because I've always felt very comfortable with how I looked that now that I'm not, I can't possibly see how Mike may still find me attractive. Still all worth it when I compare it with what I gained in my life, but it would be nice to get a bit of horniness back...
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9 months on, 9 months off. At 16 weeks, I was still not fitting into prepg pants etc (well, just the fat ones). I think at a year, I'm back to normal. DH said on the weekend that no one would believe I've had a baby. So don't sweat it - eat healthy, and I'd bet the rest will come off and you'll tone up eventually.
I am having trouble with that as well. 30 pounds up still, plus breastfeeding...i have NO libido. And next week I get cleared for sex. For the first time in 4 years I think hubby has more of a drive than me...weird. Hang in there. I hear it gets better!
you are the best Fran!
Just as well you said something about how your blog looks because I always read from my google reader page, so don't get to see your 'looks'.
Shame on the attic, it's always the same isn't it? a little delay here, a problem there, Easter... You will get there though.
And the mojo? I'm afraid that hormones are a big part of it, but worrying about it probably doesn't help... No I'm not telling you to 'just relax' ;-). Would you have a chance to go out with Mike? just the two of you? movie maybe? holding hands in the dark? Some time together, without phones emails...
good luck.
love the new look! I've been such a bad blogger the last few weeks. It's great to here from you, though, and great that you're doing such a bang up job at ICLW!
Looking fab-o!!! Very light and spring-y. :-)
How awesome that you have commented on so many blogs! Thanks for stopping by mine and for your sweet comment. Your baby is so adorable! Congrats!
Your blog looks fantastic! And I'm so impressed with your commenting. I hate it when those ladies have their babies, do an announcement, and then drop off the face of the earth - I miss my friends! So thanks for hanging around - you make me smile!
Good luck with the mojo - I got cleared for sex last week for the first time during this pregnancy, and I have no desire at all. The good (maybe) news is the hubs is afraid of hurting the baby and thinks it's weird, but I'm not doing anything to make him feel better either... :)
Don't beat yourself up on the body. It comes back they tell me, just takes time!!! So glad you are all healthy and well.
Love the new blog look. Don't worry, your mojo will come back. I struggled with that too and I think every woman does after giving birth. Pretty soon you will be back to feeling fabulous! (not that I'm there either).
Love your new look! I think you have inspired me! As for mojo - I don't know what to say except give yourself time, get a massage, find new ways of being kind to your body. I don't have much either but my body is kind of at a stand still! Hope the attic gets sorted soon! Better to get it all right structurally first before you make it look pretty!
ICLW - Go easy on yourself. You've had a major change in your life and things take more time than you think.
Your baby is adorable!
Hang in there. You'll get to where you want to be. ICLW #32
Thanks so much for stopping by my blog. Your sweet little baby is darling!
Happy ICLW!
Thanks for stopping by my blog! It took me a long time to get back to my pre-pregnancy weight and even though I'm there now, it still is distributed differently then it was before. I haven't figured out how to make time to change that but like you said, it's so worth it. Hang in there!
ICLW #117
Thanks for stopping by my blog! I don't know how your blog design was before, but its definitely cute now :) I wish I knew how to make these adorable designs for my blog!
Hi! ICLW return visitor. You're very systematic about the ICLW - I'm impressed, and may do that next time!
stopping by from iclw...thanks for the comment on my blog! i'm sorry to read that you're feeling pretty blah right now. you've had one heck of an IF journey. i'm sure between that and (finally) being a new mom has suck some of your soul mojo with it but i hope you find it soon. the new blog design (whatever the old one looked like) sure is a pick me up for us visitors!
I admire your dedication this ICLW!
And I hear you on the baby weight and body issues:(
Not liking my body either... hoping the 9 months on, 9 months off addage will mean I'll get in shape by then!
Cool new blog. Like it!!
Hi! thankd for coming by my blog. I read your TTC history..i was floored. You put in blood sweat and tears. congratulations on your gorgeous baby. I know she was worth every tear!!
Just stopping by to say hi and thank you for all the nice comments to my blog:) I have been horrifically busy and blogs have fallen to the bottom of my priority list. Love the pic of you and little man in the post below. You look so happy (and he is just fantastically adorable!!)
You go, girl for trying to be an Iron Commenter! Your baby is absolutely beautiful, congratulations!
Love the redesign! I would suggest finding a pretty dress, a babysitter, putting on some make up, going out for a nice dinner, and making hubby pay even though it's also your money. It's worked for me when I needed a bit of a kickstart.
Fran,
Thank you for reaching out to me- to all of us- from Ireland! The connections our journeys allow us to make are amazing.
As someone who is still trying to get to where you now are with your sweet Oliver, I want to tell you it means a lot that you are STILL reaching out. And to be honest, what I liked most about this post is the "reality check" it was for me. Sure, motherhood is the goal, but you remind that it is absolutely NOT the end. Finding peace with myself and a lasting happiness are the greater challenges. When I have the baby I so desire, there will still be other desires (mine and DH's!)-- a better "mojo" as you so charmingly put it; getting the figure back; the need for a boob job. What I'm trying to say is you remind me that a baby is not what will make me happiest; I will make me happiest, with my choices in life, my goals, my love for others, my constant evolution... I don't know that any of this makes sense, but I do want you to know you've made an impact on me, already. Thank you. (:
I love the new blog look, Fran. It's perfect. Also, it's something that gives hope to those of us still in various stages of the trenches. That we, too, may have a happy ending.
As far as your mojo, ach. I can only imagine. I am feeling like a slowly inflating balloon, and kind of graceless. While I'm not for a second complaining, or anything but 100% grateful, I hadn't expected this. But it's a very hard thing for one's physicality to suddenly be different.
Here's hoping for the mojo's return. Soon:)
Love your new look... and hope it marks the start of your mojo coming back xoxo
thanks for stopping by my blog for ICLW. sorry it took me so long to come and say hello. congrats on your beautiful baby and your story definitely gives me hope. (Tippy @ tippyandtidy.blogspot.com)
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