Friday, August 21, 2009

Ghostwriter

Hi everyone. This is Mike here (Fran's DH, for those who don't know). She asked me to write this in order to keep you up-to-date on events. She's fine, but as you will have deduced, things have taken a turn for the worst.

I got a message from her at lunch time to say that she had more and heavier bleeding, and that she had scheduled a scan in the clinic. I left work to meet her there and by the time I arrived she was being scanned by our Favourite Doctor (who did the scan during her lunch break). The scan revealed an extra-uterine gestational sac near the right ovary. A blood sample was taken for HCG determination and we set off home to get organised for hospital admission. Another (more detailed) scan was performed at this hospital (hospital #1), which showed the embryo to have a heartbeat (or at least the precursor of a heartbeat). For some reason the surgeon recommended by our Favourite Doctor was uncontactable, and so we had to go to another hospital for admission, but before we left, our Fav Doc had already phoned us with the rushed HCG results: 7495 (up from 4004 three days earlier).

Off to Hospital #2. This is the one where Fran had the previous ectopic dealt with. Another scan and about a million photos later, we met the doctor who will perform the surgery, who informed us that the operation will take place tomorrow morning. It’s not an emergency since Fran isn’t in pain (although she was feeling twinges later on in the night before I left to go home).

She almost has a sense of relief. “Almost”, I say since it is of course a desperately disappointing thing to happen, and we are devastated. But at least when they remove the ectopic along with the right tube this time, it can’t possibly happen again. And then there was that feeling that she had of sensing that it was ectopic, when everyone around her (me included) thought that the feeling must be brought on by fear of a recurrence of the previous ectopic, rather than an actual recurrence: The HCG levels were rising nicely, and, how could we possibly be so unlucky? Well that’s life, and it sucks. But with your support and mine, she’ll get through this, and hopefully we’ll be rewarded with an incident and stress-free pregnancy next time.

Sorry if my writing style is a bit matter-of-fact (I’m new to this). Hopefully normal service will be restored tomorrow night (here, they like to empty the hospitals for the weekend, and tomorrow (today now) is Friday). I wish you all everything that you wish for yourselves. Over and out.

Mike.

18 comments:

  1. Mike & Fran,
    Sending lots of love and prayers your way. My goodness - I can't imagine what you're going through right now. I'm sure posting this update wasn't easy, but I want to let you know how much we all appreciate it. Now I can pray specifically that Fran's surgery goes well and for physical and emotional healing for the both of you over these next days and weeks. You are, without a doubt, in all our thoughts.

    Love,
    Cathy

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  2. Oh, this was not the news that I was hoping to hear. My prayers are with you both. This is completely devastating. I will definitely be praying for safety for the surgery and strength for tomorrow and the days to come.

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  3. I am so sorry. This wasnt what I'd hoped to see when I logged in. I know that it isnt what you'd hoped to share.
    Sending prayers and hugs your way. Many of them.

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  4. I am so sorry about this. I'm just picking up your blog through your comments on some others I follow. This is disappointing, but you were so right on with what was going on. That is just amazing. Please thank Mike for writing such a great post. He sounds very optimistic about your next plans. Best wishes,
    K.

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  5. No words...just (((hugs))). Will be thinking of you both and sending prayers your way during this difficult time.

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  6. Oh goodness, I am so sorry for both of you.

    I hope that the surgery goes well, and that Fran recovers quickly.

    Take care of yourselves and each other.

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  7. I'm so sorry. You will both continue to be in my thoughts and prayers.

    ((HUGE HUGS))

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  8. My Dear Fran and your Dear Mike - I'm so sorry this has happened. Fran, you know your body so well, and you really did know exactly what was going on. I'm glad that you're getting the care you need and my thoughts and prayers are with you - I hope you have a successful surgery and please know we are all here for you to help you through this. XOXO
    Love,
    Maddy

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  9. There is nothing really I can say that could bring any semblance of comfort, but you both are in my thoughts and prayers.

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  10. Mike & Fran,
    Words cannot express how terrible sorry I am for your loss. As a fellow multiple ectopic IFer, I know how difficult this is. Take time to recover and enjoy each other. Your (Our) time will come to have a healthy, happy, full-term pregnancy. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
    Melissa

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  11. Oh my Dear God....I can't believe this...I didn't expect to read this this morning...Fran and Mike I am so very sorry about this....I am now speechless. Mike thanks for the updates...I am just beyond speechless. My prayer is for God to bless you all with peace and miracle soon. I am so very sorry Fran.***hugs***

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  12. Fran & Mike, my heart goes out to you both. What a devastating thing to have happen again. I'll be keeping Fran in my thoughts hoping the surgery goes well. Life can be such a kick in the teeth sometimes. I hope you turn to one another for support and healing. Love and hugs sent to you both.

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  13. I am so sorry. I will be thinking about all of you.

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  14. I'm so sorry to hear this. Sending many thoughts and prayers.

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  15. Oh God, I'm SO sorry Fran and Mike. I'm praying for you both. This sucks hairballs.

    xxx

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  16. I'm so sorry. I wish it hadn't turned out this way. You're in my prayers.

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  17. I am so sorry that I am behind on reading. I am so unbelievably sorry that y'all are going through another ectopic. I know how terrible it was for me to go through one and I couldn't imagine ever going through it again.

    Fran and Mike, I am praying for y'all.

    Tina

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